You need to help her heal. Remember, you're trying to rebuild trust. Well,a few weeks ago i was at work and i get a phone call,its my wife and i say hello,hello and nothing but as im about to hang up,i hear talking, to who though,i stay on the line and listen and listen for about 30mns. If you decide to make your relationship work after trust is lost then you have to slowly let the past go. Whatever you say during your apology, make sure that you mean it. Sometimes their partner rarely or never wants to have sex with them - something we don't think of as universally evil or selfish but which can have grave consequences on a relationship. You need to be willing to give her as much as she needs. He or she would also probably want to know in case there was anything they could do to help you. Several months later, after moving into our house, I was looking for an anti-virus disc for our home computer, and he said he had it in his Navy bag. Communicating clearly lets others know you mean what you say without any underlying omissions or secrets. Fred is no stranger to pornography temptations and what they can do to a marriage. Try saying, "I made a mistake when I did not carefully proofread those documents.